Many people believe in the power of manifestation, believing that if they focus hard enough and have positive thoughts, they can create any outcome they desire. But is this really true?
In this article we’ll be debunking some of the most popular myths about manifestation and give clarity on common law of attraction questions that people often ask, and show you how to use your own power to create the life you want.
We’re going to cover things like: can I manifest my ex back, can I only think positive thoughts all the time, and do crystals help with manifestation?
If you’re totally new to manifestation, start by learning the 3 foundational steps to manifesting anything. Otherwise continue reading to get the answers to your burning questions about manifestation!
Frequently Asked Questions About Manifestation
1. Is manifestation hard to learn?
I have good new and bad news for you.
The good news is that you’ve been manifesting your whole life. The bad news is that you’ve probably been manifesting some things you don’t want. That’s ok! It’s part of the learning experience.
Ultimately our lives, our outer realities, are a reflection of our inner realities.
Think of someone with low self-esteem. They never ask for what they want, they accept poor treatment from other people, they don’t go after their dreams, they don’t feel deserving of good things. Will they be able to create an amazing life with success and happiness when their internal reality is so negative?
No, because what’s on the inside is what manifests on the outside.
Now that you know that you’re already a powerful manifestor, you can have some fun.
You can work on changing your inner reality and see your outer reality shift from mediocre to amazing.
2. You can’t ever think a negative thought
The good and bad thing about the Law of Attraction is that what you think about doesn’t instantly appear. It would be convenient to instantly manifest a million dollars, but what if you thought of a bear in your kitchen and it instantly appeared? That wouldn’t be so great.
So the good thing is that just because you have a negative thought doesn’t mean it will manifest in your life.
Life has it’s ups and downs, our bodies chemical composition changes and sends different hormones to our brains, challenging things happen to us and in the world.
What you consistently focus on, and what you believe in, is what manifests into your reality.
People who are always negative manifest negative things. People who spend a lot of energy being jealous find new things to be jealous of everyday. People who always worry about being broke are often broke, even when they have a good income!
When I was a teenager my older sister would say “life is hard” all the time. Guess what, her life is hard.
That doesn’t mean positive people don’t have challenges, but they are less likely to sabotage themselves by unconsciously creating more challenges.
We don’t make life harder for ourselves on purpose, we do it without being aware of it.
Negative thoughts will come and go, just make sure that 90% of the time you are focusing on positive thoughts.
3. You have to ask for what you want to manifest every day
The first step of manifestation is asking for what you want, but you don’t have to ask everyday. Placing an order with the Universe is kind of like placing an order through an online shop.
You figure out what you want, put it in your cart, and affirm you really want it by actually checking out. Then you wait for the order to ship and trust that it will arrive.
What you don’t do is order the same thing twenty times before it’s even shipped right? And you don’t call up Amazon asking when it’s gonna get here.
Manifestation is kind of similar. You ask for what you want and trust that it is coming to you.
When we ask over and over again it puts us in the energy of desperation and neediness. Once you’ve made your request you have to kind of disconnect with the outcome. Have the attitude of it already being done and feeling as if you already have it, but also being ok if it doesn’t happen.
This is one of the frustrating paradoxes of manifestation, but it teaches you trust and patience.
A helpful affirmation for being ok with your external reality right now is “my success is inevitable, and I am always on the right path, what I want or something better is on it’s way to me.”
4. You just have to think positive thoughts & what you want will show up like magic
There is a widely held belief that the Law of Attraction just means you have to ask for something and sit back and wait for it to arrive. The was the basis of The Secret, a popular book and movie that I’m sure you’ve heard of.
Asking for what you want is part of the manifestation process, but it’s only half of the equation.
The other part of manifestation is action.
Ugh, but action is just another word for work!
Yup it is! The Law of Attraction as described in The Secret is so, well, attractive to people because it seems so easy. You just have to ask and poof it will appear on your door step with no effort on your part!
That sounds nice, but the most vital element is action. The Universe is a co-creator, not a genie. You have to work with it to create what you want.
Yes taking action can be work, but work doesn’t have to be hard. You can choose to make the work fun and fulfilling and remember that the little things you do today will add up to big results over time.
5. If my manifestation doesn’t happen quickly am I doing it wrong?
We’re very blessed to live in an age when most of what we want is at our fingertips.
We can have food delivered in 30 minutes, get 2 day shipping, hop in the car and go to the store at any time. We can research anything on our phones, talk to anyone instantly, buy plane tickets and leave for the Bahamas tomorrow, etc.
There is relatively little that we can’t do or have right now.
So when something takes time to happen we get frustrated and want to give up or we think that manifestation doesn’t work or that we’re doing it wrong or that what we want isn’t meant for us.
The truth is that some things just take time.
There isn’t specific rule about how much time it takes to manifest something. Sometimes people will get their desire over night, other times it takes months or years. Be patient, maintain your intention and keep believing it will come.
When a farmer or gardener plants a seed do they expect it to grow and bare fruit right away?
No, they know that there is a season for planting, a season for growing, a season for harvesting, and a season for enjoying the benefits of your work.
If you feel like you’re blocked somehow there are 7 primary reasons you struggle with manifestation. Take a look and see if anything resonates with you then take action to fix it.
There are also some ways to manifest your desires faster, again some things take time but you can make sure that you are doing everything you can to make space for what you want.
Want personal 1:1 coaching? I can help you Accelerate Your Manifestation.
6. Will crystals help you manifest things?
Look, I love crystals. They’re sparkly and make me feel good just looking at them because I like pretty things, but they don’t technically do anything. This may make some in the manifestation community apoplectic but it’s the truth.
Yes, crystals have molecular vibrations. So do many things. The only power crystals have is in the placebo effect.
Our minds are incredibly powerful, if you believe a crystal will help you sleep or increase your fertility then there is a chance it will because your mind is always looking for ways to substantiate your beliefs.
Crystals only have the meaning you give them. If you have a crystal that makes you feel calm or energized when you hold it that’s totally fine, just don’t spend hundreds of dollars on them expecting magic.
They are no more magical than a pen or pencil. Alone they don’t do or create anything, they are simply tools you can use to focus your attention and intentions.
Crystals are so popular in the manifestation world because of capitalism. They are pretty, mystical, and easy to market to people. That’s really all it takes for trends to start and people looking to make a buck will find the thing you want to hear and give it to you.
I have crystals, I’m not against crystals at all! I just can’t tell you crystals help you manifest things when I can’t find any science based evidence that they do.
7. Can you change other people with manifestation?
You can manifest just about anything into your life, but you can’t change people.
We all have free will and trying to change that will only backfire on you. You can only control what you do and are.
There’s a saying “you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink.”
You can’t manifest someone falling in love with you. You can’t manifest someone changing their toxic behavior. You can’t make someone be anything other than what they already are.
What you can manifest is finding the right partner and finding people who will respect and value you instead of drain and hurt you.
You have to be willing to raise your standards and be the kind of person you want to attract. If you want someone who is already honest, compassionate, driven, and loving then you have to be that kind of person too.
You also have to be ok with being alone. If you are desperate for a person who is this or that, you are sending out the energy of desperation and will attract more reasons to be desperate. You will likely replace one unfulfilling relationship with another unfulfilling relationship and keep repeating that cycle until you get your energy right.
Learn more about changing people with manifestation, and how to attract the right people into your life.
8. Can you manifest some things but not others?
With the exception of changing people (because that’s manipulation not manifestation) the Law of Attraction applies to everything just like the Law of Gravity, it doesn’t pick and choose.
You can manifest anything you like (that’s physically possible) as the formula for manifesting always stays the same whether you want money, a relationship, a car, a job, etc.
If you find that you manifest some things easily, but other things feel impossible the likely reason is that you have limiting beliefs around that thing.
Some people find creating money to be really easy, but struggle to have healthy relationships, while for other people love is easy but money is a daily struggle.
Ask yourself some questions about your relationship with the thing you want. Do you want a loving relationship but you have a history of toxic partners? Do you want more money but find that you spend money as quickly as you make it?
Start to drill down on your beliefs around the thing you want. I have an amazing course will help you breakdown those limiting beliefs so that you can remove those blocks.
9. Can I get my ex back with manifestation?
This is one of the most popular law of attraction questions people have, and it’s not unreasonable by any means but there isn’t a simple yes or no answer.
To manifest a romantic partner, or even a best friend, focus on the qualities you want that person to have, rather than focusing on a specific person.
The reason for that is because sometimes the person we think we want isn’t actually for our highest good and you might just find that the Universe knows what you need better than you do and will bring you a better option.
Sometimes people leave our lives for good reason. You may have been in energetic alignment with that person in the past, but if one of you has grown or evolved you can’t make the other person evolve with you.
Of course people can come back together, but you can’t force it and if you try you’ll only repeat old toxic cycles.
Focus on the kind of relationship you want to have and let go of the need for that specific person.
Learn more at How to Manifest Your Soulmate
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