30 Ways to Become Your Own Best Friend
Imagine having someone who always has your back, supports your dreams, celebrates your wins, and offers unwavering compassion during tough times. That someone can be you.
Becoming your own best friend is one of the most empowering and transformative things you can do for yourself. It means embracing who you are, cheering yourself on, and treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show a loved one.
This journey isn’t about perfection or pretending everything is always okay; it’s about showing up for yourself no matter what. It’s about creating habits and behaviors that make you feel good, confident, and supported from within.
In this article, we’ll explore 30 practical ways to strengthen your relationship with yourself—ranging from self-care routines and positive self-talk, to setting boundaries and finding joy in the little things.
Ready to start treating yourself like the amazing person you are? Let’s dive in!
30 Habits to Become Your Own Best Friend
1. Tell Yourself “I am worthy of my dreams” Every Single Day
Every morning, look in the mirror and say, “I am worthy of my dreams.” Speaking this affirmation out loud helps reinforce the belief that your aspirations are valid and achievable. Over time, this daily practice builds self-confidence and reminds you that you deserve to pursue the life you want.
2. Flirt With Your Reflection
When was the last time you looked in the mirror and gave yourself a wink or a playful smile? Flirting with your reflection is a fun and lighthearted way to connect with yourself. It shifts your focus to your unique beauty and charm, helping you feel more confident and comfortable in your own skin.
3. Celebrate Your Wins
Big or small, every accomplishment deserves recognition. Take a moment to acknowledge your efforts, whether it’s completing a project, sticking to a routine, or simply making it through a tough day. Celebrating your wins reinforces your progress and motivates you to keep moving forward.
Occasionally making a list of your accomplishments is a great habit for making yourself feel good.
4. Adopt a Positive Mantra About Yourself
Choose a mantra that uplifts you, such as “I am insanely powerful” or “nothing can stop me.” Repeat it throughout the day to counteract self-doubt and cultivate a supportive inner voice. A personal mantra can become your mental anchor during challenging moments.
5. Get Excited About Your Future Results
Visualize your goals and the amazing results waiting for you. Whether it’s a healthier body, a new skill, or a dream career, getting excited about your future keeps you motivated and hopeful. Let this excitement fuel your daily actions.
6. Write Encouraging Notes and Letters to Yourself
Pen notes filled with encouragement and positivity. Write as though you’re talking to your best friend, reminding yourself of your strengths, achievements, and potential. Leave these notes where you can see them or save them for moments when you need a pick-me-up.
7. Validate Your Own Feelings
Your emotions are valid, even when they’re messy or difficult. Practice acknowledging and accepting how you feel without judgment. When you validate your emotions, you create space for self-compassion and deeper self-awareness.
8. Adopt an Attitude of Gratitude
Gratitude transforms your mindset and helps you focus on the good in your life. Start or end each day by listing a few things you’re thankful for, including traits and accomplishments that make you proud of yourself.
9. Thank Your Past Self for How You’ve Helped Present You
Reflect on the choices and efforts your past self made that benefit you now. Whether it’s an investment in your health, career, or personal growth, expressing gratitude for your past self fosters a sense of continuity and pride in your journey.
You might even thank past you for putting the laundry away last night so you don’t have to do it today. Those little moments of gratitude to yourself make you a more confident and happier person.
10. Be Your Own Cheerleader
Root for yourself with the enthusiasm you’d give a close friend. When you face challenges, remind yourself of your strengths and capability to overcome them.
Being your own cheerleader builds self-confidence and resilience, helping you to go for goals that feel a little out of your comfort zone.
11. Listen to Your Body’s Cues
Your body communicates its needs in subtle ways. Pay attention to signs of hunger, fatigue, or stress, and respond with care. By honoring your body’s cues, you develop a stronger connection to yourself and improve your overall well-being.
12. Get in Your Daily Miracle Miles or Hot Girl Walks
Walking is a simple yet effective way to boost your mood and energy. Use this time to reflect, listen to uplifting music or podcasts, and connect with yourself.
Make your walks a daily or weekly ritual of self-care and empowerment. I love listening to affirmation audios and feeding my mind positive messages. Here’s one of my favorites:
13. Make Your Home or Bedroom a Relaxing Haven
Transform your space into a sanctuary by decluttering, adding cozy touches, and incorporating calming scents or lighting. A peaceful environment promotes relaxation and nurtures your mental health.
14. Dress in a Way That Makes You Feel Confident
Wear clothes that align with your personality and make you feel great about yourself. Wear fun make up or dye your hair a fun color if you want to. Confidence in your appearance can positively impact your self-esteem and how you interact with others.
You don’t have to buy new clothes and make up all the time, just have some staples that you love wearing over and over again.
15. Plan Cute Outfits Each Week
Take time to curate outfits for the week that make you feel cute and stylish. Planning ahead takes the stress out of dressing in the morning and feeling like you have nothing to wear. Dressing with intention can elevate your mood and help you present your best self to the world.
16. Consume Less, Appreciate What You Already Have More
Focus on valuing what you already own rather than seeking constant newness. This mindset reduces stress, encourages gratitude, and helps you find joy in the simple pleasures of life.
17. Learn a New Skill or Hobby
Challenge yourself by picking up a new skill or exploring a hobby. This not only keeps your mind engaged but also allows you to celebrate personal growth and creativity as you develop a new talent.
18. Be Kind to Your Body Physically and Mentally
Treat your body with care by nourishing it with healthy food, movement, and rest.
Equally important is showing your body love through positive self-talk and acceptance. I have a really lovely meditation for loving your body below.
19. Ditch Comparison
Comparison robs you of joy. Focus on your unique journey and accomplishments instead of measuring yourself against others. Remember, you are enough just as you are and you don’t have to live the way anyone else does.
20. Develop a Good Skincare Routine
Caring for your skin is an act of self-love. Establish a skincare routine that works for you and enjoy the ritual of pampering yourself daily. Here are a few of my favorites for a clear complexion:
MAREE Glycolic Acid Exfoliating Pads
Hypochlorous Acid Spray Toner
21. Say No to Things That Don’t Make You Happy
Honor your happiness by declining commitments or situations that don’t align with your well-being. Saying no to things that don’t serve you is an empowering act of self-respect that frees up space for what truly matters. Practice this boundary-setting habit to prioritize your needs and values.
22. Curate Your Social Media to Only Follow What Makes You Feel Good
Social media should inspire and uplift. Unfollow accounts that drain your energy or make you feel inadequate, and surround yourself with positivity instead.
23. Only Allow Supportive people into Your Social Circle
Your inner circle should be filled with people who encourage, respect, and uplift you. Let go of relationships that bring negativity or harm to your sense of self-worth.
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24. Plan Date Nights with Yourself
Take time each month to treat yourself to an evening of activities you enjoy, like a movie night, dinner at your favorite spot, a creative hobby, or even a night in with candlelit dinner and your favorite movie.
25. Practice Self-Compassion and Forgive Yourself
Mistakes are a natural part of life. Instead of dwelling on them, offer yourself understanding and forgiveness, just as you would a close friend.
26. Set Goals That Feel Good
Your goals should excite and inspire you. Focus on aspirations that align with your passions and bring a sense of fulfillment.
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27. Release and Declutter What Doesn’t Feel Good
Let go of physical, emotional, or mental clutter that weighs you down. This act of release makes room for positivity and new opportunities.
28. Schedule “You” Time
Carve out regular time just for yourself, whether it’s for relaxation, reflection, or pursuing hobbies. Prioritizing this time boosts your mental and emotional well-being.
29. Prioritize Rest
Rest is vital for your well-being. Make sleep and downtime non-negotiable parts of your schedule to recharge and prevent burnout.
30. Create Rituals That Feel Good
Rituals bring structure and joy to your life. Whether it’s journaling as you sip your morning coffee, an evening wind-down routine, moon rituals, or weekly self-care sessions, design rituals that nurture your soul.
I hope you found this list of ways to be your own bestie helpful. Gradually integrate them into your habits and you’ll find that you’re a happier and healthier person.